Depression is the most common mental health issue faced by a majority of people. There are few significant things people with depression want you to know. Through my experience, I have a list of 11 most important things which should be considered while dealing with someone with depression.
11 Significant things people with depression wants you to know
#1. “I don’t always have a reason as to why I’m feeling depressed”
This may sound strange but people with depression doesn’t always have a reason for being depressed.
Sometimes your friend may feel low without a reason and depressed people wants you to know this and be patient with them.
#2. “I often isolate myself but doesn’t mean I will ditch you”
When someone isolates themselves, they are being labeled with different names like rude, boring, less trustworthy, etc. Let’s get rid of this wrong idea person. The depressed people need our love. They withdraw from social life thinking they are burdened to others or that they may look like sympathy gainer. Would you like if someone misunderstands you?
#3. “Don’t compare me with other depressed friends, we all have different coping abilities”
Comparing is always bad. But comparing someone coping abilities (mental illness) is worst. They don’t want sympathy, they need love. Understand their problems and never compare them with other friends how they cope up with their depression. Everyone is going through different ups and downs and most importantly everyone has a different coping mechanism.
#4. “If I knew how to get out of it, I would”
They are stuck there because they don’t know how to fix it. And, if they knew they would do it themselves. Depression is not a temporary occasion of stress.It is a mental illness. One needs to understand that the person with depression is hopelessly stuck in it.
#5.”Anyone can have depression- It’s not my fault”
If you think only kids, poor or a failure can be a victim of depression then you are completely wrong.
Anybody can have depression. From celebrities to hairstylist, rich to poor, kids to adults etc. The bottom line is- You have to treat them just like a friend and not blame them. They are just like normal people with an anxious mind.
#6. “Don’t give up on me”
“Don’t give up on me! I may look like a big, burly, manly man. But I still need to be reassured, I still need/want affection.” — Steve Lee. I think it explains it all.
#7.” If I’m leaning on you too hard, let me know- please”
Sometimes, a depressed leans too hard on a person even without realizing it. Depressed people have so many thoughts and when they talk to someone, they share their highs, lows and even lowers low. As a result, they start bothering people even without realizing and the other person may start to keep distance. If you think they’re, thoughts are weighing on you let them know with ease. This would not spoil your relationship, but instead, the depressed person will be more careful how much to share in a healthy and useful way.
#8. “Achievements you see small are big to me”
Achievement is a personal goal you need to achieve. And, so everyone thinks about it differently. People with depression try to find happiness even in the smallest things. So, please don’t make fun when they celebrate their small achievements. In addition, celebrate even the smaller success.
#9.”Depression is not all about having bad days”
“Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day”. Depression doesn’t mean they always have bad days. It is a mixture of good days and bad days.They also enjoy and do things normally. They don’t always get mad. Mood fluctuates: Good or bad. But there is always a hope of happiness after a bad day.
#10.”Depression isn’t just a bad mood or a bad day. It is different from being sad”
Being sad is a temporary grief or emotion which you get rid off in some time.
Depression is a persistent worry which stays for weeks, months and years. You can cry out a grief and explain your sadness. But in a depression, you can’t even explain what’s going on.
#11. ” I am trying my best to deal with it every single day”
Therapies or/and medication are available for depression. People feel lonely and isolated. But, standing by their side will make them feel less alone. Also, there is no magic way to treat it. So, be caring and supportive enough to help them fight depression.
I hope the above points are useful to you.
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